“Be yourself.” It’s incomplete advice. Why?
Most of us don’t know who we really are or are meant to be.
Being yourself sometimes doesn’t bring out the best in you. When you’re having a argument with your spouse, you will likely react out of emotions (anger, disappointment…) You hurt yourself even more and the one you love dearly. Does it mean if you’re hot tempered, you should react out of temper in every single argument?
Better advice is this: “Be the best possible version of yourself.”
Whether I’m in an argument or about to speak to a large audience, I always strive to be the best I can be.
The problem is that only a few of us actually define what “best” means. Some even compare themselves to others and believe the others’ best is their best. (The only person you must compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday.)
Everyone has their own definition. But if we know what our personal values are, we know far better what being the best possible version of ourselves mean. Define yours now.