Probably when teaching and learning something, you look for right and wrong. But in most real life situations, being right isn’t the solution.
If you need to explain to a customer that they’re wrong, you might be right. But then you will likely lose them. You’ve proved your point but people have a choice. And they rarely choose to buy from someone who insists that they’re wrong.
After all, how often are we all 100% sure we’re right? Hardly.
It’s understanding, mutual gain, forgiveness, and seeing the good behind the parties involved. And these are great life skills to have – to learn and practice until it becomes a habit.
They say fake it ’til you make it but Social Psychologist and Associate Professor at Harvard Business School Amy Cuddy says it a little differently:
“Fake it ’til you BECOME it.”
And this came after years of research.
What is happening inside of you determines what you do. But what you do also determines how you feel.
You smile when you are happy, but you also become happy when you smile, even if you’re faking it.
Watch the TED Talk video and find out how two minutes of what Amy calls “power posing” can change how you feel.
Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.
What do you think?
Hard selling is often unpleasant. It makes people feel uncomfortable talking with you and may even break relationships.
But you should do sell hard if you have something amazing that you know will change lives. If you have a cure for a disease, a solution for a healthy life, an opportunity for long-term financial stability,… you’d sell it hard. You sell it hard because the more you sell, the more you know you’re curing the disease, help bring solution for a healthy life or opportunity for long term financial stability…
What you must make certain, though, is that you’re being truthful both in terms of what is being offered and how it is being offered.
I love being successful and has always done what it takes to be more successful. Like you and every one else, I guess.
I’ve learned so many ideas/meanings of success: making more money than others, being an expert in something, doing what you love, helping others change their lives, etc.
There’s nothing wrong with all these ideas, but it must be your own idea of success.
Owning your idea of success doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a process… of trial and errors. You might think if you got something, you would be successful, but it turns out out at the end of the day when you actually gets it, you realizes it’s not what you want.
It’s a discovery process and remember that life is a series of experiments.
Read this comic if you still believe you can’t afford to do what you love.
Of course, doing what you love does not necessarily mean all “office” jobs are dreary cubicles where you turn your brain off. If you love computers and technology, you can still do what you love working for companies like Google, Microsoft, Apple, Facebook or Twitter. The girl in the comic probably can still do what she loves working for a riding school instead of owning one herself.
Going to college and working office jobs could be a stepping stone or a milestone on your way to doing what you’re passionate about. The point is to make sure that the work you do and get paid for is what you love.
Comic by Gavin Aung Than of zen pencils